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Archive for June, 2012

From My Daughters Heart

I have spent most of the day today catching up on e-mail. Most of it being posts from blogs that I follow; teacher resources, Christian women sharing their faith, mothers sharing their lives.

As I sort through it all, I save worksheets and strategies into various files for use in my classroom next year. I ponder the thoughts that are being conveyed. I apply God‘s word to my life sometimes in ways that are similar to those who are writing, and at times in very different ways.

I am in awe of the women who blog daily with such insight and thoughtfulness. Often they share Biblical truths that I need at that moment for myself or to aid someone else in their journey. I am intrigued by their ability to write so freely and so often.

I am envious of the teachers who not only prepare for their own classes, but help me prepare as well.

I dream of the charmed lives these women must live in their perfect homes with their perfect children. Obviously, they are able to juggle life in a way that I can only imagine or watch on television.

Today I read several posts about just how imperfect life is even for these people who I have put up on pedestal. They have the same fears and challenges that I face on a daily basis, and they are not afraid to share those truths along with all the rest.

Then I realize that these women are no better than the rest of us. They are me! I don’t see what goes on behind the scenes, or what they deal with; what trials they are battling.

We often think others are so much better off than we are or that their lives are so much easier, when we all live in this crazy world and have our own battles to fight, our own children to raise, own houses to clean. We all have friends who support us and enemies who challenge us. We all put our pants on one leg at a time.

I think my 19-year-old daughter who reads my blog said it best when she advised me, “the people who read your blog must think you are normal. They would never know you are really crazy!” We laughed and my other daughters agreed.

I must have done something right to have daughters who can speak from their hearts and tell me the truth without so much as batting an eye. I am as blessed as those other women and my daughters hearts are proof of that fact!

5 Minutes from the Heart: Dance

Five minutes of writing straight from the heart; no corrections, no-rethinking…

Today’s topic is Dance!

Start 7:51 AM

My middle daughter is a typical middle, if there is a typical middle. She’s the shy quiet one like I was. She’s a lot like me in many ways, though she thinks I have no idea what she is going through.

She is my dancer.

It was cheerleading that brought her out of her shell in elementary school and she continued to cheer through Middle School. It seemed to give her a sense of purpose and gave her a reason for being.

In high school she switched from cheer to dance. She joined the drill team and really blossomed more than I ever though she would. She was no longer that shy quiet girl we had always knows.

Unfortunately, drama allowed to run rampant on that team crushed that spirit in her. She quickly retreated back to her shell and has lost all of the confidence that dance initially instilled in her.

I pray every day that she will regain that confidence and know:

what a beautiful dancer she is,

what a talented artist she is,

what a gifted computer guru she is,

what an amazing photographer she is,

what a wonderful daughter she is.

She is my dancer, and I pray every day that she will just dance.

Stop 7: 56 AM

Heartfelt Blog Tour: A Princess Broken

This week I am hosting Misty Gatlin’s blog tour as she promotes her newest book, A Princess Broken. Please welcome my 19-year-old daughter, Chelbrey, as she attempts her first book review.

Book Review by Chelbrey Crowdis:

“The book A Princess Broken definitely made me want to read more from the start. It got my attention right away.

It is about a girl who feels broken, alone and worthless because of choices she has made in her life. God sends a woman her way to show her that she is worth so much more than she realizes.

This stranger tells her about God and His wonderful ways. So she accepts Him into her heart, and watches as everything slowly starts to fall into place for her.

Although Sarah’s situation was fictional, some teens do go through the same things on a daily basis. It made me stop and think, “what if my life was like that?” It also made me appreciate my life that much more.

Knowing that the author actually went through what Kate went through with her father made the power of prayer that much more real to me.

My cousins Grandmother is currently sick and can barely move. My cousin is very upset about it. Since I read this book and the author’s experience, I can confidently tell her that everything is going to be okay if she will just pray.

I know that God has a plan for everyone in every situation. Whether it is to teach them a lesson or to show them the truth, He never makes a mistake.

Since reading A Princess Broken, I have been praying a lot more, and things have fallen into place for me. I am giving God a bigger part of my life.”

Author BIO:

Misty Gatlin is a writer and keynote speaker at events for various churches and organizations. She has worked with teen and college aged girls for 12 years. Her passion is to teach young women to have confidence in their own identity in Christ. Misty and her husband, Eric, have been married for 11 years and have two wonderful children. You can learn more about Misty, her books, her speaking, and read her blog at www.MistyGatlin.com

How we met Misty Gatlin:

Mrs. Gatlin was an 8th grade Spanish I teacher who taught my two older daughters. She and I were never more than parent and teacher speaking via e-mail and the occasional face to face at meet the teacher night. A few years later she was a vendor at a Craft Show I directed for the High School Drill Team. We talked a few times over the course of the daylong event and I really gained a respect for her and her ministry to young adult and teen girls. Since that time, she and I have only communicated on occasion through social media and e-mail, but when she started posting information about this book, I felt the Lord leading me to support her ministry in any way I could. So, I have purchased two of her books for my daughters and their friends. I have watched the Lord work in their lives through Misty’s ministry. I strongly recommend her books to young women, and anyone working with or parenting young women of faith.  It is a purchase well worth it’s weight in gold.

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Confessions From My Teenaged Heart: Coming Soon!

I am working on starting a series incorporating my writings and ramblings from the high school years, possibly even younger. I am going through the box in my closet which is full of spiral notebooks that I used as diaries to hold the contents of my heart. Few people, if any, knew how I really felt about most things in those days. I used my writing to get it all out in the open, or at least off my chest. Writing was very freeing for me. It seemed like writing was as good as telling my best friends, and my pen did not argue back or tell me I was stupid for my feelings.

First, let me say that I was very self-conscious of my appearance and seriously afraid of making a mistake. I am still not sure where that came from, but I continue to suffer from a fear of failure, at times. Stepping out in faith and taking risk does not come easy for me. I often feel like I need to know all the boundaries I am to abide by before I am comfortable taking the lead. Until then, I am a very shy follower, which often looks like laziness to employers and volunteer coordinators. On the contrary, once I have knowledge of my limits, I take a project and run with it full steam ahead and can be very successful in a venture.

My children often learn a lot about me by reading my blog and I believe I can learn a lot about myself in going back through my broken-hearted years and assessing myself. I also look forward to my husbands reaction to it all. We were friends in high school, but he dated my best friends, not me. Obviously, we were nowhere near as close back then as we are now, and he has a very different view of who I was at that point in life.

Finally, I believe it is important for others to see that we have all been in similar situations in our lives. There is little in life more freeing than finding out you are not alone in a dilemma or conflict whether it is with yourself or with another. When people know that you have survived a similar situation it helps them feel better about the calamities they face and the decisions they make. I hope you come along for the ride!  I am looking forward to the journey. Thanks for reading.

FYI, above is a 1984-85 yearbook photo of me in my Sophomore year at Texas Christian Academy.

5 Minutes from the Heart: Risk

Today’s 5 minute writing prompt is Risk. Straight from the heart. No prep, no corrections…

7:07 AM Start

Risk is in everything we do. It is just part of life. We take a risk every time we breathe, everytime we start our car or drive down the street. It’s inherent in our everyday lives.

Risk is often what keeps our faith alive…

Faith is the substance of things hoped for; the evidence of things not seen.

We take risks based on faith. We have faith that God will provide so we take the risk to start a new job or a new blog. We step out to spread the gospel in another country with the the faith that God will take the seed we plant and multiply it in the lives of the people who hear our voice.

We risk riducule at work or at school to keep others from a living the rest of their lives without the comfort of our Savior.

Stepping out in faith is a risk, but risk is what keeps our faith alive.

7:12 ish STOP!

Procrastinators Heart

I am a planner and I love to put things together, yet I am also a major procrastinator! I either do everything the minute I get the project, or I put it off until the last-minute and then I race to get it done. The other way I incorporate my love of planning with my procrastinating side is to plan out every detail well in advance, then dread the implementation of it; putting it off for as long as possible. It’s like I am setting up a challenge for myself to prove that I can do it! Somehow I always gets it done, but occasionally I cause myself a lot of undue stress in the process.

In graduate school I took mostly online classes so that I could get ahead and not have to stress about deadlines. Well, that lasted about three days. After that I waited until the day something was due to even start on it. I figured an A is an A, and if I can get one without much effort, that was good enough for me.

In undergraduate school I braided my hair and put on my make-up on the way to school or in the parking lot when I arrived. I also stayed up all night the day before an exam to cram for the test. Then I would be too exhausted the next morning to even function, much less pass an exam. I think I took US History online THREE TIMES! I just couldn’t focus long enough to get through all that reading! I finally took it in class at UNT, loved it and made an A!

In high school I memorized my test information in the car on the way to school, WHILE I WAS DRIVING!  I now kick myself for making B’s and C’s when I know I could have done much better by just applying myself, even a little.

Luckily, I am very organized…well, most of the time. This helps to get things done on short notice. I am also good at skimming things rather than reading them, especially on the computer. Don’t tell my teachers or my students, but I HATE to read! Control F is my favorite function. It takes me straight to the information I need without having to go through several paragraphs of unimportant data to get to the good part. I know! I’m so bad for admitting this, but I have to be honest.  I love information, but I dislike reading. I am very visual and at times have to read things multiple times to gather all of the pieces for the meaning.

A friend of mine has asked me to co-author a book with her on a subject for which we have joint knowledge. I know my parts and she knows hers. So, it really requires collaboration to accomplish. Of course, I have put off even beginning to write my part because I’m just not into the mind set right now, and I know I can write several pages on Saturday night, before we meet again on Sunday. It’s not that I don’t want to do it. I just have more important things on my to do list; like beating my brother at an online game of Words with Friends, and planting on my Farmville farm. You know, IMPORTANT THINGS!

Truth is, it’s all about priorities and right now my priorities need some adjusting.

We are created in God‘s image and he does everything in perfect timing.

Can you imagine if God put everything off until the last-minute? I know that sometimes it feels as if it is the 11th hour when He responds, but I also know that He has been planning that response since the moment I asked.

I am built in His image, therefore I should also plan every step of the way, regardless of the importance of the task, and implement it with His timing. This is something I need to be striving for, but I always put it off until the next year or the next task or the next something else.

It’s an issue of self-control. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 25: 28 “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.”

Right now let’s ALL decide to STOP PROCRASTINATING! Not tomorrow! Not next week! RIGHT NOW! Are you with me?

To get yourself started you should:

  • Create a to-do list
  • Organize the list in terms of what is most important or has an earlier due date.
  • Make a plan for what can and will be accomplished today, this week, this month.
  • Stick to the plan!
  • Check off items as you complete them. This sense of completion will help keep you going.
  • Let someone else know you are working on getting things do so they can help you maintain accountability for your actions!

I am accountable to my writing partner to get my chapters done by Sunday!

I am accountable to my children and husband to have dinner on the table by 7:15 each night (my husband gets home from work about this time)

I am accountable to you to write in my blog two to three times per week!  Thanks for following and joining me on this journey.

5 Minutes from the Heart: Path

Today’s topic for www.thegypsymama.com ‘s Five Minute Friday writing exercise is “Path”. The exercise is to write for 5 straight minutes without extreme editing; grammer corrections, spell check, etc. This is straight from the heart onto the page in just 5  minutes. So, here I go:

Start 7:11 PM

The path that I am on is lead by the Lord. He directs my path,

Well, as long as I allow Him to. Right?

So often I find myself asking the Lord to lead and direct me, but then I decide that I can’t wait for His response and need to chose a direction for myself before it’s too late to go that direction.

Silly, I know, but I’m sure I am not the only one who does this!

I feel like I am at a crossroads as I posted yesterday, but does the Lord see me at a crossroads? Does his path for me change directions at this point, or is that just my idea od the path I should be on.

It’s funny that this should be the topic today as I ponder this summer, just how to follow His path without making my own way prevail over His.

My Grandmother used to say that you make your own choices, but with His direction. She would say we have our own will, but prayer and study of the Bible will turn the light toward the direction He wants your path to take.

Stop! 7:16 PM

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