My campus is currently doing a book study on “The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy,” by Jon Gordon. It has been a good process for looking at who fuels you in positive ways and who drains your energy. It is about how to remove those energy vampires from your bus or team, effectively and without hard feelings, as well as how to add the right people to your bus. This is helpful in work situations as well as family. As we get closer to the holidays, we all start to think about those who will suck the life out of us if we allow them to this holiday season.
I have a wonderful team this year who challenges me at times, but in a good way. Occasionally, their comments or actions frustrate my desire for perfection, but I remind myself that perfect doesn’t always mean best, and my idea of perfect is not everyone’s ideal. I realize that we are learning from each other and that’s what makes a great team. Together we are building great things for our students. These are the kind of people I want on my bus and I am so happy to have them along for the ride with me. I have already talked all about them in another thankful post, but had to again say how thankful I am to have my wonderful staff and friends on my bus this year.
If there are people who drain you and keep you from God‘s best for your life, regardless of how much they claim to have your best interest at heart, be brave enough to remove those people from your bus. God does not want us to suffer with friends and family who are not imparting wisdom and grace into our lives. We all have people in our lives who suck the life out of us time after time. God has given us a spirit of peace, love and a sound mind. Those people who are taking your peace, using you for your love and making you question your sanity need to be removed from a prominent place in your life.
While I know that not everyone can be permanently removed from your life, there are ways to allow people to have less of an effect on you; ways to remove them from your bus. Here are some suggestions:
- Delete them from Facebook and other social media where they can insert themselves into your life in places where you have not personally invited them.
- Make other people a priority in your life; find new friends who lift you up and give you the support you deserve.
- Create an environment where those toxic people are not part of the events and occasions where you participate.
- Don’t answer them. If they call you are under no obligation to respond, unless of course they are contacting you for professional reasons.
- Do not engage in their childish games. Do not let them draw you in to a conversation where you end up the bully and they end up looking like the victim.
- If necessary, change churches, jobs or addresses; what ever it takes to put yourself into a more positive situation.
I have dealt with my share of negative people whose agenda was to better themselves at my expense. This is not God’s design for our lives. Pray and ask Him to guide and direct you through getting negative people off of your bus.
- Thankful Heart 2013: Day 5 – My Circle (ourcrowdedheart.wordpress.com)