My campus is currently doing a book study on “The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy,” by Jon Gordon. It has been a good process for looking at who fuels you in positive ways and who drains your energy. It is about how to remove those energy vampires from your bus or team, effectively and without hard feelings, as well as how to add the right people to your bus. This is helpful in work situations as well as family. As we get closer to the holidays, we all start to think about those who will suck the life out of us if we allow them to this holiday season.
I have a wonderful team this year who challenges me at times, but in a good way. Occasionally, their comments or actions frustrate my desire for perfection, but I remind myself that perfect doesn’t always mean best, and my idea of perfect is not everyone’s ideal. I realize that we are learning from each other and that’s what makes a great team. Together we are building great things for our students. These are the kind of people I want on my bus and I am so happy to have them along for the ride with me. I have already talked all about them in another thankful post, but had to again say how thankful I am to have my wonderful staff and friends on my bus this year.
If there are people who drain you and keep you from God‘s best for your life, regardless of how much they claim to have your best interest at heart, be brave enough to remove those people from your bus. God does not want us to suffer with friends and family who are not imparting wisdom and grace into our lives. We all have people in our lives who suck the life out of us time after time. God has given us a spirit of peace, love and a sound mind. Those people who are taking your peace, using you for your love and making you question your sanity need to be removed from a prominent place in your life.
While I know that not everyone can be permanently removed from your life, there are ways to allow people to have less of an effect on you; ways to remove them from your bus. Here are some suggestions:
- Delete them from Facebook and other social media where they can insert themselves into your life in places where you have not personally invited them.
- Make other people a priority in your life; find new friends who lift you up and give you the support you deserve.
- Create an environment where those toxic people are not part of the events and occasions where you participate.
- Don’t answer them. If they call you are under no obligation to respond, unless of course they are contacting you for professional reasons.
- Do not engage in their childish games. Do not let them draw you in to a conversation where you end up the bully and they end up looking like the victim.
- If necessary, change churches, jobs or addresses; what ever it takes to put yourself into a more positive situation.
I have dealt with my share of negative people whose agenda was to better themselves at my expense. This is not God’s design for our lives. Pray and ask Him to guide and direct you through getting negative people off of your bus.
I consider myself an ambitious person and feel like I go after jobs and other opportunities when they are presented to me, but at the same time I do not always feel as if I am capable of performing on the expected level for all available situations. So, I look past those that seem to be out of my reach or for which I do not believe I am qualified. I drag my feet on others that sounded like a good idea at first, until fear set in and kept me from reaching my full potential.
I have told my oldest daughter that I wish I was one of those people who didn’t fear making a mistake. I have friends who jump right into things for which they may not be qualified or for which they have little information before starting the project. Sometimes this works out for them, but often it causes them pain. I think that is what stops me from doing the same.
I read where someone said, “do not be so afraid to try that you completely miss the opportunity before you.”
If it is fear that is keeping me from opportunities God is placing before me, then I must remember that God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of power and love and discipline (2 Tim. 1:7)
Today I am thankful for this reminder and for opportunities to grow!
My friend Barbara’s Christmas Tree 2010
Linking again with my favorite group of writers to talk with my hands for just 5 minutes, straight from the heart, about the prompt tree.
Start: 6:34 AM
My daughter has talked for a week now about putting up the Christmas tree. In fact, last weekend my two-year-old granddaughter watched a few Christmas movies with her Dad and has not stopped talking about Christmas since. She says, ” I’m going to Christmas! Are you going to Christmas? I’m going to get candy canes and presents and candy canes!” She is so excited that it is heart warming for us all. A few days a ago she saw Christmas lights on a house, pointed to it, and exclaimed, “they have Christmas!” When we arrived home she was so disappointed that we didn’t have Christmas. So, this weekend her parents are putting up the Christmas tree, a tradition we have typically reserved for the weekend after Thanksgiving, but two weeks early isn’t going to hurt anything.
I just love that she is so excited about a holiday that signifies Christ and the fact that He was born to save us from this broken world, that he died on a tree as the brightest light ever to adorn one, and rose again on the third day defeating death, hell and the grave. Victory! Now, that’s something to get excited about. I’m going to Christ-mas! Are you going to Christ-mas?
Stop: 6:39 AM
I woke up this morning singing, “I am a promise. I am a possibility. I am a promise. With a capital P. I am a great big bundle of potentiality. I am learning to hear God‘s voice, and I am trying to make the right choice. I am a promise to be anything God wants me to be.” A very long time ago, before I had children. I would sing this in the car alone on long drives to and from work. It was always comforting to be reminded of the promises and potential we have in Christ. These promises include our every need being supplied, sufficiency in His grace, never being forsaken, victory over death and the grave, all things working together for our good, salvation, eternal life, and so many other things. Today and every day I am thankful for His promises which He reminds us of not only in His word, but in our every day existence.
My three daughters look so much alike that even though they are 14 and 22 months apart, when dressed alike for pictures, people often think they are triplets. However, they are very different on the inside. Each has their own unique personality. I found that this required different parenting styles as they were growing, which they tended to see as favoritism. However, I believe that even the Bible calls us to treat each one with the level of care and discipline they require as an individual in I Thessalonians 5.
As a teacher, the same is true. I need to approach each student as an individual and not only treat them, but teach them, according to their individual need. Raising children who are each so different has prepared me to be a better teacher. I am thankful that they taught me how to teach and nurture children with not only various learning styles, strengths, and weaknesses, but also very different personalities.
I am thankful that I know without a shadow of a doubt that my eternity is filled with promise; Christ has given us confirmation of this in His word. I am thankful that He has gone to prepare a place for me in eternity and that I have no reason to fear the future. There are so many things that go on from day-to-day that cause concern and fear to enter our hearts, but God’s word should be a daily reminder to us that He has not given us a spirit of fear and that he has set eternity in our hearts so that we may find Him when we seek to know our eternity. He is the Alpha and the Omega. He is the beginning and the end. He is eternity. I am thankful that I live in a country that allows me to seek God’s word when I am struggling so that I am reminded that He makes everything beautiful in its time. Even the things that concern us will be beautiful in eternity! If you are not sure of your eternity, click on the link to my Story below.
- 5 Minutes from the Heart: Story (ourcrowdedheart.wordpress.com)
- Eternity (devotionsinmotion.wordpress.com)
- 5 Minutes from a Thankful Heart: Truth (ourcrowdedheart.wordpress.com)
This weeks 5 minute writing prompt from www.lisajobaker.com once again ties in well with my Thankful Heart series. The word given is Truth. The charge is to write for 5 minutes from the heart, no editing, no corrections. Just write! Here goes.
8:43 PM Start
I am thankful that Christ died for my sins so that I might live.
That He is the way where there seems to be no way.
That He is the truth.
That He is the light of the world.
That no man goes to the Father, but through Him.
That He loves me with an unconditional love that has no end.
That He alone has made a way for me.
That He stared death in the face and rose again on the third day.
That His mercies are renewed each morning.
That He is all I need.
There is no truth greater than His love for us, that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
8:48 PM Stop